What makes someone cool?
It depends on many things: our stage of life, our interests, etc. For me, Steve McQueen (the actor in the photo) was Mr. Cool. Fast cars (Bullitt), motorcycles, independent, handsome, tough.
I think that cool relates to 3 things:
- Self-awareness – how well do I know myself, my shortcomings and strengths. This takes real effort for most of us. It’s easier just to be oblivious.
- Self- asssuredness – this isn’t related to ego, it’s related to believing in our selves long after it’s reasonable (multiple failures!)
- Self-compassion – do I know how to make amends to those I hurt and by extension, do I forgive myself when I make a mistake?
These 3 attributes help us lead, follow, be resilient, learn, grow, change and adapt – they help me to be independent. I like to be independent. More importantly and perhaps counter-intuitively, it make more compassionate towards others.
I think people who accept themselves, are cool. I think people who don’t think they’re cool, are often, cool. People who understand that what makes them different from everyone else, cool.
One last thing, I also think accepting responsibility is cool. When I do something that doesn’t reflect well on myself, I hate to admit it. I learned, through much pain, that it’s better to just own it. As quickly as I can. That’s one thing that makes me cool.
Cool can be about they way someone dresses or talks… but really, it’s much more about their attitude; towards themselves and by extension, towards others.
So my friend, what makes someone cool in your eyes?
Photo Credit: Steve McQueen Barbour
When I worked at Kodak in the 1990’s (and before! yes, I’m that old)… a new program was introduced called, “Shift Happens.” And yes, the pun for “sh?t happens” was deliberate.
The emphasis of the program was personal responsibility for change. It was, of course, ironic that a company that made obscene amounts of money and (while good to its employees) was incredibly risk/change averse; suddenly wanted everyone to embrace the ability to change. A noble effort. Too little, too late.
Clearly the dilemma of “change” is part of the human condition. Socrates wrote the above quote around 400 B.C. So Kodak and the rest of us are all in the same boat.
It took me all long time to learn to want to change, to understand change is important and necessary.
My favorite quote is, “Change is good, timing is everything, patience is the key.”
What are you changing about yourself? If you’re not sure, if you need help, reach out and ask someone. If they can’t help, try someone else and keep trying until you find the person who is right for you… for right now. Happy changes.
Photo credit: Socrates quotes
When I say your ‘business’ I mean whether you HAVE a business or whether you ARE the business. Today, being prepared for changes is what required.
I work with several entrepreneurs and meet with new ones regularly. It is such a joy because each one is excited about their business. They have energy and a hunger to learn and grow. It is infectious and wonderful.
Many of them, like me, have had plenty of ups and downs. In fact, most of them will experience more downturns that they believe they can stand! What separates a successful ‘business owners’ from the unsuccessful, is flexibility. The ability to pivot.
So how do each of us, whether we starting a business, reinventing ourselves or invigorating our career, take the “just do it” train?
Ideas are easy to come by, in fact, very easy. What’s not easy is making that idea into a business (or career) that works. Here are some rules for navigating the terrain:
- Build skills. In my corporate years, I looked for assignments that would allow me to learn new, specific skills.
- Try on different roles. Find ways to test out various roles, tasks, assignments. Volunteer, talk to your boss, be specific about what you want.
- Fail fast. This one sounds the worst. Most of us don’t want to ‘fail’ at all. What we don’t realize is that we learn the most from our failures. It is what propels us to do new and better. It is what helps us learn quickly and meaningfully.
Are you excited about your work? Do you wake up ready to learn? If not, perhaps it’s time to pivot.
Photo Credit: Empowering Startup
“We are supposed to be bored. It is a part of life. Learn to put up with it…” Jack Kerouac
I grew up quickly, in a family of alcoholics. This meant that when other kids were playing or having ‘summer’, I was worrying about food, safety, ‘taking care of other people’.
It is with great pleasure that I report that I am currently exploring the joy of boredom. The “not doing”, the “not having to do”, the “that can wait until later.” I may appear to be sitting around, but I am not doing nothing. My brain is working through ideas. It’s the quiet that we allow ourselves in boredom that feeds our creativity.
Now you might disagree. “Boredom is a sign of weakness.” “There are so many wonderful things to explore.”
Whichever side you’re on; take a minute to “not do” when you have the chance. Here’s a quiz:
The reason people often have good ideas in the shower is:
- the water
- the soap
- the quiet
- all of the above
If we want to improve our problem solving ability and creativity, maybe we ought to sit around more and ‘think’ less.
Photo Credit: Day 151 SuperFantastic
Some people say that the world is falling apart. Some say it’s never been better.
What do you say?
No really, what do you say? Everyday… do you reflect the “getting better” or the “falling apart”? The truth often shows itself in subtle ways.
Yesterday I was at the dog park. I asked one of the people I often see there, what she’d been up to? She said she’d been on vacation at a nearby lake . I said, “Well you had beautiful weather.” She replied, “Well, it was a little chilly somedays, not as hot as we wanted.”
Really, I thought? You got to go on vacation. and. you. say. that?
We live in a world of labels. Your politics are this, mine are that. Your religion is this, mine is that (or worse, I don’t have one). You come from this country, I come from that.
Information overload has made it easier to be polarized. What can we do? Sometimes it’s in our nature to be a negative Nelly. If you’re a curmudgeon then fine; you’re off the hook. But I’ll bet you’re not. I’ll bet you want to be happier.
Just for today, try not to think in black and white. Try the grey. Maybe the person who cut you off in traffic has a sick child. Maybe the person at work who drives you crazy is lonely. You don’t have fix any of these things; just adjust your attitude.
If you think, I could never be a democrat, a catholic, a republican, a Jew and on and on… Think about why not. The truth is, we are more alike than different. Let their peace on earth and let it begin with me.
Photo credit: Flying Twigs