Why do these people look happy? They look like they’re doing the dreaded “networking.” I’ve learned to appreciate the power of networking, but I still don’t like it.
The interviewer or connection you need something from, won’t appreciate that cold call. So, unless you are super charismatic, you will need practice at ferreting out a way to make yourself valuable to others, because at least 50% (probably much higher) get their job from a referral.
Try using these tools to help build your value to others:
1) LinkedIn – If you have a few hundred connections, be sure to search the contact’s name there. You might be pleasantly surprised the connections you share. If you don’t have a few hundred connections… you are missing a big opportunity to help others and get help when you need it. There are eBooks, online classes and many other ways to learn how to use the single best tool for business connections. I work to a) always be building my connections, b) contribute to the overall beneficial information there. Then when you need it; it will be there for you.
2) Say thank you. Often. Be grateful. Everyday.
People like to be around happy, confident, interesting people. If you’re in a difficult place. Fake it ’til you make it.
3) The Go-Giver is a wonderful little book that helps inspire us to give to get. Not sure what to give, how to give, when to give? Try this book or find a podcast or YouTube video that helps you learn how to give (what comes easily to you) to those who can use it.
Why should I help you? Make that answer a no-brainer.