“Embrace the glorious mess that you are.” Elizabeth Gilbert
“Doggone It, People Like Me” Jack Handey
I spent a lot of my younger years thinking that I was crazy, a mess, not that bright… very negative self talk. It took me many years to realize that everyone is a ‘hot mess’. That being a gloppy, bumpy, goofy, awkward human means that I am alive. That I am taking risks, putting myself out there, getting my hands dirty.
And that’s how it should be.
Change Your Self-Talk
So if you think of yourself as a mess, you’re probably doing it right. Work on changing your negative self talk to something positive:
- Lighten up
- It’s all good
- I am enough (I used this affirmation for years)
- Other people feel as awkward as I do (believe me, 95% of people do)
- Easy does it
- How important is it?
These days, I say, “it’s all good” nearly every day. The things I used to spend hours worrying about either never happened or whatever DID happen, I never could have predicted or prepared for. Sure there are lots of things that happen in the world that are not “all good”- e.g. war, abuse and hunger. Today, I work to figure out what can I do something about and then do it. The rest of my awkward, weird, silly, ridiculous, lazy, lame and ludicrous self… I give her a pass.